How to Talk to Your Kids About Divorce

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Like many a twenty-something, I suspect, I took the news of Brad and Angelina’s divorce harder than I did that of my own parents’ breakup (I may or may not have bought a tabloid or two). If celebrities are the Greek Gods of our time, then Brad and Angie were Zeus and Hera, and whatever crazy stories we might hear about them from time to time, they would always remain the king and queen, a mother and father figure as stable as they were unpredictable. But down here in the real world, perhaps the most surprising thing about the Brangelina decoupling is that it was so long in coming. Anybody who has ever had a child, let alone six, or anyone who has been a child (which is anybody reading this), should know that an unstructured, multinational living situation, combined with world-class humanitarianism—and, oh yes, high-flying Hollywood careers—would have to be something of a myth.

When my mother told me she and my father were separating, I can’t really say I gave a damn. I’m sure that declaration is worth a few dozen therapy hours, but in that moment, at eight years old, I was far too absorbed in taking out my cornrows than I was in listening to my mother explain how “things might be a little different from now on.” That was that, and the next day I found myself sitting with my father at the Our Name Is Mud children’s pottery studio painting what, if memory serves, was a Passover goblet for Elijah.

And then after that I totally disassociated and gave myself amnesia. Just kidding. But in all seriousness, it’s kind of cool how quickly a child’s self-protective reflexes will swing into action. It’s not as if I didn’t understand what was happening, I just wasn’t ready to care (typing that sentence, honest to God, just made my entire life make sense. Note to self: Send form letter to the Jolie-Pitt offspring ASAP.) The less I acknowledged it, the less it existed as my reality. Because—I’ve corroborated this theory with zero people—kids aren’t interested in being unhappy and they’re definitely not interested in their parents’ unhappiness. They’re interested in training bras and Minecraft and drinking caffeinated soda. Above all, they’re interested in preserving the illusion that their parents are superhuman—or at any rate, free of any human needs that might compromise their children’s security.

It may seem that the simple admission of divorce or separation would be a clear indicator that the parent is, indeed, of this world—but here’s the thing: Since kids have no real concept of what marriage is, they certainly don’t have the emotional bandwidth to understand the complexities of divorce. Kids should come to realize their parents are flawed and riddled with shortcomings in their own time. Even now, in my mid-twenties, I probably have about an 8 percent better understanding. But here are a few things I do know:

Stick to the Script
If you can’t have the talk with your kid together, have the same spiel separately.

Kids Don’t Need the Details
Keep it simple and uncomplicated. The main point is to say it with love.

Don’t Undermine the Other Parent
Your child is your child, no matter how old, not your friend. Air your grievances elsewhere.

Don’t Make It Worse
In fact, make it a little better. Go-karting and banana splits are great distractions from sadness.

Don’t Share Your “Happiness”
If your kids are not interested in your unhappiness, they doubly don’t want to hear about your new true-love-to-end-all-loves. Unless you’ve decided to put a ring on it, no need to introduce any consenting adult into their lives.

Obey the Golden Rule of Divorce
“They didn’t ask for this.” About to blame your child for leaving the Spanish textbook at the other parent’s house? Find your rosary and repeat the above. And while you’re at it, have two sets of everything feasible on your presumably non-Brangelina-size budget.

 

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25# Times Lily-Rose Depp Will Inspire You to Wear a Pretty Dress This Fall

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Frock me, baby! I love frock ’n ’roll! I got the frockin’ pneumonia! Frock around the clock! Jailhouse frock! The cradle will frock! Had enough? (Don’t encourage me.) The point is—yes, this inane exercise has a point—frocks, dresses, jumpers, shifts, or whatever you call them have, for the last 500 years or so, pretty much dominated the female wardrobe. Why this sartorial hegemony? Well, maybe because you just pull the thing over your head, slide into your new shoes, and you’re out the door. Or maybe because in these days of artful layering and the exalted high-low mix, one simple garment can beam a powerful light.

“But a dress makes me nervous!” I hear you saying now. “I have my jeans and a tee!” And even worse, did you just whisper that a ruffly dress, a flowery frock, even an elegant evening gown can make you feel sort of dowdy and mumsy?

To allay this irrational fear, you know what you need? A visit with the dazzlingly beautiful Lily-Rose Depp (I mean, come on—those parents!), who can rock a frock with such élan, such mystical hipness, that your reluctance will vanish in less time than it takes to zip into an LBD.

Here, a guide to the best fall dresses, inspired by our muse, the ethereal Ms. Depp.

 

 

 

 

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Vogue Editor Alexandra Michler’s Top Picks From New York Fashion Week Designers on the Rise

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When it comes to fashion, what’s next is what matters most. And while we all get our kicks from seeing the latest gets from the brands we all know and love (body-hugging tailoring at Altuzarra, deconstructed boudoir dressing at Alexander Wang), fashion month offers the opportunity to scout new and noteworthy talent. Lucky for us, New York served up a fresh class of designers who deserve to have their names shouted from the rooftops.

What’s more: Thanks to Vogue’s latest project with Moda Operandi, the covetable collections that may just be the next big thing can also be your next big purchase with a click of a button. Above, Vogue Market Editor Alexandra Michler reveals her favorite breakout New York labels and the key pieces to pick up now. See more designers to watch here.

 

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Inside Gisele Bündchen and Tom Brady’s Romantic Italian Vacation

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Gisele Bündchen and Tom Brady are enjoying some time away as a couple in the midst of Brady’s four-game NFL suspension for “Deflategate.” This week, the couple of seven years have been spotted spending some quality time together around the romantic Amalfi Coast. There was a stop on the island of Capri where the two enjoyed a candlelit dinner at local spot Aurora; a bit of nude sunbathing (for Brady) at their hotel; they sunned themselves on a classic wooden speedboat in Positano; stopped for a bite at cliffside restaurant La Conca del Sogno (ending the meal with what looked like Limoncello shots); and looked like adorable tourists as they took in the sights in Positano on a bright yellow scooter. But the kid-free holiday will have to come to an end soon; Brady will be able to return to the New England Patriots when his suspension is up on Monday, October 3.

 

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X-Girl Is Back, With Coco Gordon Moore as Its New Face

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You’d be hard-pressed to find a more cultishly adored artifact of 1990s alt culture than X-Girl. Sure, the streetwear brand founded by Kim Gordon and Daisy von Furth was sold to Japanese parent company B’s International just five years after its inception (it also owns Sofia Coppola’s Milk Fed and X-Girl’s brother brand X-Large), but the label’s influence has never wavered. In the intervening time, Gordon has distanced herself from the project, instead lending her style chops to collaborations with Urban Outfitters and Surface to Air. Now, flash-forward to 2016, and the former Sonic Youth and current Body/Head musician’s 22-year-old daughter, Coco Gordon Moore, is the newest face of X-Girl.

The impetus? A fitting collaboration if ever there was one. MadeMe designer Erin Magee has teamed up with X-Girl to create a capsule collection in the Riot Grrl–leaning, skate-inflected spirit of its original iteration. “I really wanted to take it back to its roots,” Magee—a fan of X-Girl from the word go—tells Vogue.com. “I look at X-Girl as a representation of what I do, a brand that I’ve always looked up to and [that I] a bit based MadeMe off of.” Revisiting the archives, her inspiration emerged quickly: “Chloë Sevigny at a rave in 1993—what is she wearing?” And yep, if in recent years the brand has gotten away from its original ethos, her resulting creations are pitch-perfect old-school X-Girl.

Launching today are 10 pieces (five styles in two colorways apiece), among them a beret and a puffer bearing a graphic courtesy of artist and filmmaker Mike Mills, who has worked with everyone from the Beastie Boys to Pulp. Magee’s collection marks the brand’s most major foray back into the American market; though X-Girl has 32 stand-alone boutiques in Japan, its stateside presence has been a quiet one, with the occasional piece sold here and there at tastemaking shops like Opening Ceremony and VFiles. As for Gordon Moore’s role, what started as a lofty idea during the project’s early stages quickly became a reality, courtesy of an intro via the lookbook’s photographer, Ricky Saiz. It was a dream come true for Magee, and Gordon’s first involvement with X-Girl since the brand was sold in 1998. “Mom [Kim Gordon] came to the shoot, and I, like, couldn’t talk!” Magee recalls with a laugh. “She is such a supportive mom.” In the photos, Gordon Moore looks every bit the 21st-century take on the kind of iconic cool that her mother and X-Girl epitomize. A full-circle fashion moment if ever there was one.

Shop X-Girl x MadeMe is available at Opening Ceremony, VFiles, and www.mademenyc.com.

 

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John Derian Shares the DIY Secrets to Making His Stunning Decoupage Treasures

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Have you ever walked down East Second Street? If the answer is yes, you’ve likely been struck by the series of enchanting, gem-like shops known collectively as the John Derian Company. Carrying textiles, furniture, and many magical baubles, the stores’ most renowned wares are undoubtedly the decoupage pieces—made by Derian himself. And now, after almost three decades’ worth of production, a book detailing the prints behind these pieces is coming out next week. With vivid reproductions—and a foreword by Vogue Editor in Chief Anna Wintour—it is truly a must-read. But what we really wanted to know after our own perusal was technical nitty-gritty—decoupage 101, from where to shop for images to business words of wisdom. Here, John Derian’s tips of the trade:

First off, how do you find the prints that you use?
They’re mostly 18th- and 19th-century examples from dealers and antique bookshops like The Old Print Shop on Lexington Avenue—but 99 percent of the images come from instructive books. The funny, naive, and vintage ephemera are from a couple other more specific dealers and one flea market in New York. And, of course, whenever I am traveling I keep my eye open for paper goods.

The subject matter I tend to work with documents all the beauty from the natural world—it’s classic and timeless. I feel at peace in the outdoors, and I think that is somehow captured in these images.

What’s the process like after sourcing? From the designs themselves to glass application?  
I collect prints throughout the year and then create a biannual collection for the four shows I do—two in New York and two in Paris. I decide what I think will best show the beauty of the images I find: Will they work better larger or smaller? Would just a detail be enough? Then I mock up the pieces in my studio, and the team at my workshop piece it all together and I see what works.

Most of the trays are a single layer of paper, with glue evenly applied on the surface of the image. Clear glass-blown trays from Virginia get placed on top, and the glue is moved around, leaving an even, cloudy film that dries clear. Then they get finished—painted with a gold border along the edges and felted. The 3-D pieces like cake pedestals and lamps have a similar but more labor-intensive process, involving anywhere from three to 60 individual pieces being cut and glued one at a time.

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Do you have any advice for those looking to start doing decoupage themselves?
Use any kinds of images that you are drawn to. I have been doing this for so long—27 years!—that people sometimes think that decoupage is supposed to look exactly like my pieces, but it’s endless what one could do.

Your glue mixture needs to be just right. Use a water-based glue watered down further. Work fast, reprint all your materials (old papers don’t take glue well), and stay away from anything with too much color or that is too black. The denser the color, the harder it is for the glue to attach itself to glass.

What about basic care?
The surfaces remain glass, so anything can go on top, but they are not to be submerged in water. Technically the paper has light-safe ink and is acid-free, but I would keep out of direct light.

Any advice for people looking to start their own business in the creative, artistic, or homewares arena?
Have fun, stay passionate, and be patient.

John Derian Picture Book (Artisan) is out October 4.

 

 

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Azede Jean-Pierre and Shala Monroque Bring French Caribbean Flair to Paris

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Designer Azede Jean-Pierre and Shala Monroque share a language that goes beyond fashion—quite literally. With roots tracing back from America to Haiti and St. Lucia, respectively, the pair were able to connect in French Creole from the moment they met three years ago, at the designer’s first presentation in New York. Naturally, their shared understanding of Caribbean and American style was unspoken and sparked a collaborative creative dialogue almost immediately.

This season, the pair teamed up for Jean-Pierre’s first show in Paris, which took place yesterday in a charming outdoor garden in the Eighth Arrondissement. “Working on the direction for her campaign last season, there was a dialogue about the idea of the Creole, which carried over into this collection,” says Monroque. Here, the duo gives a behind-the-scenes look at the show, from the casting and the last-minute preparations to the celebratory drink at the Ritz at the end of the day.

 

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Beyoncé’s New Gymspiration Video Is as Epic as You’d Expect

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Just as the well-toned signs of a summer spent running around outdoors start to wear off and the endorphin-boosting necessity of breaking a sweat in the face of darker night sets in, along comes Beyoncé to spin the sheer torture of returning to the gym into pure inspirational poetry.

The singer posted a new video for the Fall collection of her line of athletic gear, Ivy Park, that does for the workout-shy what “Single Ladies” did for the relationship-weary. “Even when my throat is burning and my lungs feel like they’re drowning, sweat is stinging my eyes, my feet feel like they’re gonna explode,” her voice motivates over a montage of dance rehearsals, arena performances, and flashes of Jay Z and her daughter, Blue Ivy Carter—“when I’m about to give up, I picture that one person I love more than anyone . . . and I make it to the end.”

If that’s not reason enough to hit the machines in the face of back-to-school season—this is, after all, arguably the hardest-working woman in showbiz—then those post-workout waves spilling out from under her hoodie might just be the ultimate piece of gymspiration.

 

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Inside a Cool Hollywood Wedding That Was “Low-Key Prom Mixed With Disco and Glam”

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On Instagram, it looked like something out of a Wes Anderson film: soft lighting, a stage ready for a high school play, cut-outs of sparkly stars and a giant moon hung on the crimson curtain, and a bride and groom both dressed in 1970s, Biba-esque platform heels. It was the wedding of Aaron De Mey’s makeup assistant Tayler Treadwell and musician and screenwriter Gilbert Trejo, who have been together for two years. “We’re not really cookie-cutter people,” Tayler points out. “So our wedding just turned out to be the opposite of that. We just wanted it to feel like ‘us.’ ” To this particular happy couple, that meant finding a way to express their creative spirits and cultivate a vibe for their nuptials that felt both personal and imaginative. A super-nontraditional wedding aesthetic was in order.

Gilbert was the one who actually found their venue, the Hollywood American Legion Post 43. He stumbled upon the space while visiting his dad, actor Danny Trejo, who was filming there. “The amount of history the place has is incredible and the more we found out, the more perfect it felt,” says Tayler. “They filmed some of the bar scene from The Shining there, and David Bowie shot part of his video for ‘The Next Day’ there, too.” Because Tayler and Gilbert were so taken with the Legion Post itself, they didn’t feel the need to overcompensate with tons of decor. Tayler even made the invitations herself, each one completely different from the rest—definitely no mason jars or flower walls at this wedding. “I wanted low-key prom mixed with a little disco and glam,” Tayler says. “As soon as I saw pictures of the curtains, I started sending Gilbert references of old prom pictures and the Studio 54 moon. And glitter, lots of glitter.” Her strikingly glam dress, which was actually a coat made by Attico, matched the theme. For a final touch, rainbow petals for the flower girl because, “why wouldn’t you want rainbow rose petals?”

The unique look and feel of their wedding was made even more special by the backdrop of the ceremony. Gilbert commissioned a sculptor to build the disco-inspired moon and the stars and he, along with several other family members, erected the pieces themselves just before the big day. “When it came time to hang them up, our friends came early to help and my dad climbed a 30-foot ladder to secure everything,” recalls Tayler. “We didn’t have a wedding planner because between my mom and Gilbert, there really wasn’t any need for one.” During the reception, however, they did hire help when it came to their vegan Funfetti wedding cake from the Karma Baker. And for dinner, guests dined on tacos from the groom’s father’s restaurant, Trejo’s Tacos.

The decor inside the reception area in the basement of the Legion Hall was kept minimal, save for a sequined tablecloth where the cake stood and some extra disco balls the couple had brought in. “We had already fallen in love with the Art Deco decor of the Legion and we felt like we just helped add to the beauty that was already there,” Tayler says. “It felt really David Lynch–y.” After tacos, it was all about chilling and later, a dance party. For Tayler, it was about “creating a mood and a wonderful experience for all of our loved ones who came to celebrate with us. . . . In 20 years, we’ll remember the party, not the dinner plates.” And maybe a little glitter, too.

 

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5 Things to Know About Dries Van Noten’s New Model, Huan Yang

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Most models don’t have a formal education in their profession, but Huan Yang, the star of Dries Van Noten’s runway today, is far from ordinary. A student-athlete back home in Liaoning province, China, she excelled at track and field before enrolling in a local modeling school. Since then she’s gone from student to runway champ, walking Alexander Wang, Julien Macdonald, and today’s Dries Van Noten extravaganza in Paris. When we caught up with her recently, prior to Fashion Week, Huan Yang shared her love of Britney Spears songs (“I Wanna Go” is a favorite), Outlander books, and the constant pace of her day job. Get to know five facts about this rising star before you start seeing her everywhere.

1. Want to learn about fashion? Watch some documentaries.
“After I watched the documentaries In Vogue: The Editor’s Eye and The September Issue, it really gave me access to understanding the process of how those amazing pictures are made. I am still new in this industry, so everything for me is exciting, and I am looking forward to experiencing more.”

2. Like anything else, modeling requires studying and a little help from your squad.
“I was a tomboyish girl, doing sports with the boys, but because I am so tall, I went to a modeling school in China. I have to say working with my agents has been the most fun this month. We worked as a team to pick the outfits, practice the walk, the pose; they are the real heroes behind me.”

3. Blondes don’t always have more fun.
“I have to say the transformation of my hair to blonde for Alexander Wang was the most exciting thing. I spent two days in the salon before the show, but I was so impressed by how creative [Guido Palau]’s team is, and how patient they are on every detail. On my way to Pier 94 it started raining. There was no cab I could take, but I didn’t want to be late, so I was walking in the rain for 10 minutes, and my hair was soaking wet. But it was worth it to see myself in the show.”

4. Her first stop in Paris? The famed flea market Porte de Clignancourt Les Puces.
“I love trying all kinds of food, so when I don’t have to work, I will go to the flea market and try out everything that looks good!”

5. She has a keepsake from every show.
“It has been such an adventure, I’ve been so lucky: Just to be there and watch how everyone works is fascinating. [I save] my fitting photos from the boards; they’re such great memories!”

 

 

 

 

 

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James Corden Joins the Backstreet Boys, Makes Our ’90s Dreams Come True

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While many boy bands have flirted with the idea of a reunion tour (usually settling for an Instagram post instead), James Corden is committed to bringing the boy band back in all its ’90s glory. “I’m aware that boy bands haven’t gone away, right?” Corden said during Tuesday’s episode of The Late Late Show. “But now, they just stand onstage wearing skinny jeans and Vans sneakers—and some of them even have the audacity to pick up instruments. That is not what I want in a boy band. I want matching outfits, synchronized dancing, and way-over-budget music videos.”

And so, in grand Corden style, he joined the Backstreet Boys onstage for a spirited rendition of “Everybody,” and made all our ’90s dreams come true. Take a look at the performance above and just surrender to singing “Backstreet’s back, alright!” for the rest of the day.

 

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7 Things to Know About Rihanna’s Fenty x Puma Spring 2017 Show

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Rihanna made her Paris Fashion Week debut with a show for her Spring 2017 Fenty x Puma collection. Set against the ornate backdrop of the Hôtel Salomon de Rothschild, Rihanna’s second Puma offering was a tongue-in-cheek take on Marie Antoinette—if Marie Antoinette was the coolest girl on the block. With the help of models like Imaan Hammam and Slick Woods, the superstar sent out streetwear with high-fashion twists, all grounded with her fawned-over Puma kicks. While you wait for Chioma Nnadi’s review of the collection, get the shorthand version of events from Rihanna’s Paris Fashion Week debut here.

 

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1. Rihanna turned the salons of the Hôtel Salomon de Rothschild into a wonderland complete with chandeliers lying on the ground and a maze-like runway that wound in and out of the hôtel particulier’s many rooms.

 

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2. Imaan Hammam opened the show in a transparent, Pepto-pink parka that was trimmed in ruffles. She carried a Puma-branded fan and wore a full neck of jewelry, a do-rag, and a baseball cap.

 

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3. From there the show cycled through a variety of pink looks—the most dramatic being the bow-front number on Slick Woods—before turning to an army-green palette that included jumpsuits and a memorable hoodie with a bra top affixed to its front.

 

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4. Corsets were a big story at Fenty x Puma, with models wearing them over dresses, as part of sweatshirts, or on their own with bra tops.

 

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5. Superfans will be wondering: What about the shoes? There were creeper-soled boots, stiletto mules, and proper pumps with shoelace trim at the front for girly girls who want to nod to sports culture without getting their feet wet.

 

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6. Many of the models in the show carried diamond rings in their mouths. How better to propose to a gal?

 

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7. After the models took their final walk, Rihanna came out in head-to-toe pink, making sure to stop in each of the salon’s many rooms and bless her guests with a photo op. If the big smile on her face is any indication, we’d say she’s pretty happy with the outcome of this collection.

 

 

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